Sometimes I try to explain things to people, my friends on Skype mostly about things that may or may not be questionable. I usually do this in hopes that they would understand the reasons behind them cause usually it seems all people do is bash something with out giving it a second though. Ok somethings don’t require a second thought but a lot do and thats what I try for.
It seems though that if this view happens to be against what is accepted even if the point of it is that it’s not really accepted I can’t really explain anything with out someone making rude remarks. when the point of this is ‘look understand it’s deeper than someone being a douche and I know it’s a douche thing to think but understand they have an understandable reason for being a douche’
The latest example is when I try to truthfully answer the most common question in a multicultural class I have ever heard. ‘Why does Europe hate immigrants?’
The answer is always ‘they are afraid they will take their jobs’ but since my mom is actually from Europe, central Europe and country that has never invaded another country in it’s history and she’s willing to answer these questions she told me that that’s not the real reason, it’s part of it but it’s a lot deeper
The fact that everyone of these little countries has a lot of pride with being different from their neighbours to the point where someone could walk down the street and someone can tell where they’re from. Their cultures are so in grained into their mind that if they moved they’d have a hard time fitting in else where and they like that. They don’t like immigrants because they’re afraid of loosing those minor differences that make them who they are. They want the immigrants to assimilate so they don’t all morph into similar traits and lose these differences.
I try explaining this and all I get is comments about how the ones that did colonize other places they happily tried to eradicate the culture there and that it’s wrong to force assimilatin and blah blah blah.
look, I’m from Canada thats a place where some one can immigrate there and do just fine with out learning anything about the place they’re living in now, some people never learn english and that’s fine because thats how what little of our own culture works but after I heard these reasons I understand and I sympathize with it. No one wants to lose what makes them even if they did the same to others.
I’m pointing out 2 things:
1.) there is a deeper reason, if you don’t agree with it then fine
2.) we’re all hypocrites, we all will some day do something to something or someone that we find wrong or we say we will never do. If we were in these people’s shoes we would react the same way, even if we say we wouldn’t that is how we work
and I pointed out one other thing with this session
one can’t have a different opinion from what’s accepted or just explain why there are different opinions if the opinion isn’t accepted as a whole with out being mocked or thrashed or lectured into how it’s wrong.
I know there are things that just can’t be accepted but still… guys… what does this say about you if you react like this to everything?